Behaviors associated with low self-stem

Author: Diana Mejia
Clinical and pastoral counselor
President and founder of Nuevo Sendero

As an immigrant and survivor of domestic violence, she has been educated to help other Women and their families. Diana Mejia spends her time helping Hispanic families who suffer from domestic violence. She guides them and helps them break the cycle of domestic violence and sexual abuse. She develops her mission through support groups, educational workshops, conferences and referrals to the different agencies that provide services for the same cause. Nuevo Sendero, Diana Mejia’s non-profit foundation, regularly participates in radio, television programs, magazines to carry the message of education and awareness about Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse.

Behaviors associated with low self-stem

Self-esteem is the personal judgment that someone makes about their own value, based on the following areas:

Self-Judgment: the patient has negative thoughts and thinks that he or she is condemned to failure. The patient describes itself as “dumb, not-worthy of anything, a failure.” The patient sees regular life challenges as impossible tasks and it encloses itself in self-pity.

Self-Decrease: the patient decreases the value of its own abilities by avoiding or neglecting the real value of them.

Guilt and Concern: these are destructive actions that make the patient punish itself.  These indicate self-rejection.

Physical Manifestations: they can be hypertension, psychosomatic illnesses and the abuse of various substances like alcohol, drugs, tobacco or food.

Postponing Decisions: a high level of indecision produces an increased sense of insecurity.

Tips to increase self-esteem

Self-acceptance: this means accepting your flaws and being happy with them.  You cannot love other people in a healthy way if you don’t love yourself.

Avoid self-depressive behaviors

Self-image: this is the mental picture that you have of yourself.

Self-respect: this is taking care yourself, your own necessities and your own values. You have to express and handle feelings and actions without hurting or blaming yourself.

Appreciate and celebrate all the things that make you feel proud of yourself.

God is a healthy source of Love. He accepts us as who we really are.